Communicating with the teacher

If I ever tell you a secret about teachers that you should remember, remember this: teachers never neglect children whose parents are ever-present. Most teachers feel pressured to ensure that the child succeeds. While I suspect that this is connected to teachers not being able to blame the shortcomings of the child on parents as easily, some of it no doubt comes from feeling supported. So, how does communicating with the teacher about your child look?

As far as time frame, there are definitely some things to consider when leaving an impression with the teacher. The first week of school is a wash. It's not surprising to see parents show up then, and it is difficult to remember most parents anyway. However, showing up weeks 2 and 3 makes a big difference. By week 3 especially, teachers are starting to formulate ideas of their students' personalities and academic needs, and can have more purposeful dialogue with parents. Also, we are not as overwhelmed with so many new faces and can have a more lasting impression made by a parent. But, don't stop there. Check in at least once a month during the school year to remind teaches that you're on top of them. And, check homework! With homework being submitted, you are giving the ultimate communication that you are on the teacher's side

Now, what modes of communication are effective? While all are acceptable, some are definitely more ideal. While this certainly varies based on the teacher's style, email and text messaging are my modes of choice. Popping in or setting up sit downs are nice, but they also take away my planning or personal time. Obviously, a solid teacher will accept these requests, but outside of urgent situations, they will probably find them unwarranted. Phone calls can be a bit awkward because of various circumstances, including timing, location, unpredictability and vagueness of tone. A lot of teachers like to address issues in their comfort zone (location and time), which can be taken away with face-to-face meetings and phone calls. Emails and text messages, on the other hand, allow for teachers to consider the best solution/answer to your concern and feel confident that they are providing the best professional response. It is easier to include complimentary documents or other resources as well. Since this is my preference and not based on empirical data, I would use a combination of modes of communication. Better yet...ask the teacher what they prefer!

Don't be afraid to provide background on your child, express your hopes and concerns, and offer support throughout the year. It will make your child's education far easier for you, the child and the teacher.

Always,
Dwight